“You’ll quit when you’re married”
This lie is tricky because it seems to make sense! You'll be having sex with a real person, so the craving to watch porn will go away, won't it?!
Nope! The craving won't go away because, at their core, sex and porn are opposites.
People do not quit when they get married, they too often find that porn has harmed their ability to be sexual in healthy, bonding ways with their spouse.
Real sex is a together experience – you and your beloved. Porn is a screenful of novelty, one different person after another.
Real sex is about seeking your partner’s gratification before your own. But porn is all about gratifying yourself.
Real sex is about opening up yourself, your heart, body, and soul to another person, and learning to cherish the openness that they give to you.
In contrast, porn is about escaping and avoiding being open.
Real sex is part of a relationship, complete with good stuff to enjoy and problems to overcome together. Relationships are built through time and effort. So what happens when you’ve argued with your spouse or someone is too sick or busy for sex? Will you escape to porn?
Getting married does not make you a different person - if porn is how you cope now, you'll do the same thing when you're married.[1]
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You might feel worn down, tired and hopeless because the lies of porn have told you there is no way out. You might feel like you are so far gone because you’ve tried so many times to end your relationship with porn without success. Or, perhaps you love someone stuck in an endless cycle of indulgence and regret.
[1] https://wheatley.byu.edu/wp-content/uploads/2021/11/The-Porn-Gap-Wheatley-2021.pdf