“You’re Not enough for him”
Porn is an evil and destructive force that spews its manipulative lies. Unfortunately, those lies have a way of sneaking into the hearts and minds of women. If you are a woman affected by the porn use of someone you love, you are not alone.
Porn tells you outlandish and ridiculous lies like: You’re not pretty enough, you weigh too much, you’re too old, or you’re too boring in the bedroom.
Here’s the truth. More and more men are coming forward to say that their porn problem started in their early teens. Porn affected their brains at a crucial developmental stage. [1]
Viewing porn creates a false story of what sex should be. Porn encourages misogyny. It warps viewers' understanding of good, healthy intimacy in relationships and fuels unrealistic expectations of the female body – or even of their own body. [2]
Older men, millennials, and even younger guys, including some who’ve lost their marriages over porn, are speaking out about porn’s early influence on their lives. They’re beginning to see that porn hooked them at a vulnerable time in their lives.
His porn problem is his problem and has nothing to do with you even though it affects you.
Even if watching porn is a more recent struggle for your significant other, his porn problem is his problem and has nothing to do with you even though it affects you. Other underlying reasons for struggling with porn include past trauma, abuse, or simply boredom.
Let yourself fully accept that his porn problem isn’t your fault. You are not responsible for his actions, but you are worthy of love and acceptance.
Affirming his responsibility and your value brings you sweet peace of mind and freedom from porn’s lies. When you know your worth, you’re free to help your spouse embrace his value and yours, too.
You might feel worn down, tired and hopeless because the lies of porn have told you there is no way out. You might feel like you are so far gone because you’ve tried so many times to end your relationship with porn without success. Or, perhaps you love someone stuck in an endless cycle of indulgence and regret.
[1]Maturation of the adolescent brain - PMC