“Nobody will ever know”
All you have to do is turn on the news on any given night of the week to hear the latest scandal. Someone’s dirty secret has been discovered and is put on display for all to see on the local nightly news. Sometimes the bad news is about a famous person who was caught cheating on a partner. Other secrets include secretive, destructive habits that finally came to light.
If you have a secret porn habit that you’ve never told anyone about, it’s easy to think you’ll be able to keep it hidden forever.
But there’s the law of sowing and reaping. Porn trains your brain to feel entitled to other people’s bodies. Sooner or later, the habit of watching porn over the years is going to affect your behavior and who you are becoming.
Plus, secrets DO have a way of spilling out at the most unlikely times.
You can try to keep hiding your porn habit…
Until you spend more time viewing endless screens than enjoying real relationships [1]
Until you realize you’ve sabotaged your own sex life [2]
Until you realize you don’t view women as people, just objects [3]
Until your life is one long cycle of loneliness and depression from lack of real intimacy [4]
Until your child accidentally stumbles on a tab you thought you had erased
Until your “secret” pops up in front of your students at school while you’re giving an online presentation from your laptop
Until your co-worker – or your BOSS – looks over your shoulder at the wrong moment
Until your partner wonders why you’re unable to perform in the bedroom
Until your spouse finds your hidden files and wonders why she isn’t enough for you [5]
Until you remember – if you’re a person of faith – God, Spirit or the Universe is always watching
Until your hospice nurse listens to your last regrets
And even if no one ever catches you, you’ll know.
Your inner self – your conscience – will always know the truth about your secrets. You can change that truth. Your bad habits don’t have to define you.
Did you know that loving your neighbor as yourself implies that you should love yourself, too, in a kind and wholesome way?
Destructive habits are the complete opposite of loving yourself. They’re a form of self-hatred. In fact, it’s very hard to live your best life always hiding pornography use and trying not to get caught.
What if you could enjoy the freedom you might not even realize you were missing? [6]
Because deep down, your inner self surely knows your porn habit is really hurting you. That sense of loneliness, boredom, and longing for deeper satisfaction? It’s telling you something – if you’ll only be curious about yourself and pay attention.
What do you have to lose? Isn’t it worth it to see how much better life can be without a secret porn habit?
You might feel worn down, tired and hopeless because the lies of porn have told you there is no way out. You might feel like you are so far gone because you’ve tried so many times to end your relationship with porn without success. Or, perhaps you love someone stuck in an endless cycle of indulgence and regret.
[1] We need to talk about pornography | Pursuit by The University of Melbourne
[2] All About Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction | HuffPost Life
[3] Masculine norms, peer group, pornography, Facebook, and men's sexual objectification of
[5]https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/experimentations/201803/4-ways-porn-use-causes-problems
[6] How I stopped watching porn for one year and why I'm not going back | openDemocracy